Let me help you, NOT!

Starting breastfeeding is hard enough by itself, but having a household full of capable people who refuse to help with the mundane tasks of life makes it harder.  If someone is supposed to be helping you achieve the goal of making it past a few weeks of breastfeeding, because that is what had been decided by both of you, you'd think they would be more helpful with the other parts of keeping the household running.  Dishes are a great place to start.  Helping make sure there is food in the house for everyone, not just you, is another one.  Helping prepare food for the person breastfeeding would be another great place to put some effort in.  Making sure there are clean clothes for everyone is also very helpful.  I get so frustrated with the lack of help from the other capable adult in the house.  I should have seen this coming.  Hey I know you are working and that is great, but when I am responsible for everything else in the house while trying to deal with a two week old all day and night, since you can sleep through everything, a little help around the house would be appreciated.  It doesn't matter how many times I ask for the help, or answer the question "what can I do to help?", I still get zero of the things done that need to be done around the house. So then I get overwhelmed because I can't do everything and I shouldn't have to.  There was no expectation that I should have cloned myself so I had one body that could breastfeed, one body that can take the older kids to their appointments, one body to continually work on the household chores and one body that can make sure all the rest of the household is fed.  At least I didn't think so.  It is appearing to be that way now.  Anger, frustration, and irritation are rising.  If I knew this is the kind of help I was going to get I never would have even accepted the help in the first place, because its not helping, it is a hindrance.